Oftentimes in life we doubt ourselves, question our skills, abilities, compare ourselves with others, including ideal images on Instagram and advertising billboards, from where super successful people, devoid of any flaws, look at us. We listen to friends' stories about their successes or watch YouTube channels of motivating people who have achieved everything and even more in this life.

Under all this pressure we often get sad that our abs are not as impressive as the Victoria Secret model’s, we don't fly to the Maldives every weekend or just can't afford expensive trinkets. Single women in Thunder Bay get upset since they don’t have a couple, shy guys from Toronto feel lonely coz their friend list is not as long as society says it should be, and hard workers in Calgary become discontent with their lives as they don’t spend every weekend in Goa, and so on, the list can go on infinitely, but one thing is invariable - all these desires to comply inevitably lead to a deterioration in mood, stress, and sometimes even depression. But is it so bad to compare yourself with the best and strive for it? Well, there is a very fine line between trying to be perfect and getting disappointed when realizing you’re not, and trying to simply improve and develop.

 

Why is being perfect bad? 

 

Delaying the results 

First of all the goal of being perfect is about everything and nothing at the same time. 

Since the criteria of perfection is almost impossible to meet in real life. As a result, a person may work hard to achieve those high standards but never actually be able to complete it. This way only delaying the realization of the projects or tasks.

 

Constantly low self-esteem

Social media is an illusory world. It is important to understand: people publish photos of only the most successful and happy moments, and leave their failures and failures behind the scenes. Thanks to this, one gets the feeling that everyone around has a very rich and vibrant life. Looking at cheerful pictures of friends and idols, many feel envy and resentment. In addition, we begin to focus on our shortcomings and forget about the areas in which we excel. As a result, our self-esteem suffers.

 

The fear of mistakes

Any mistake should be always seen not as a reason for worrying, but rather a chance for growth and great improvements of our skills. So instead of the craving to always be ideal and not make any mistakes, be brave about your decisions, and even if something goes wrong analyze the situation, draw conclusions and try not to make such mistakes in the future.

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